starting to feel like “intimidating” is just coded language for “unattractive”
White guy code (in relation to you) would probably be “makes me uncomfortably aware of my own shortcomings. Because I am now aware of my own lack of ability to deal with a confident _______, when until now I have been of the opinion/(mis)understanding that I am superior to _________s (consciously or not). This person makes me think about my relationship to this group, and that makes me uncomfortable.”
Used as a pejorative or an excuse to avoid contact with anyone, in my opinion it speaks less about you and more about their own lack of comfort in dealing with their privilege. Unless you recently threatened violent physical harm, you probably just exist outside their comfort zone. And unless you want to change to fir their preconceived notions, thats probably a good thing.
I can’t tell you it’s a compliment. But I doubt it has much to do with your looks, if that makes you feel any better.
Trafficking Awareness - Art Giveaway!
I’m giving away these four original drawings, to be in to win, just reblog this post with the trafficking information still attached. Don’t reblog numerous times because it will only count as one entry. If you aren’t interested in the art giveaway, you can just reblog the trafficking info!
LIFE FOR A SEX TRAFFICKING VICTIM
After a trafficking journey that typically involves deception, rape, beatings, and constant threats, victims are often forced to live in confining and unsanitary conditions. Once formally put to work, human trafficking victims can be forced to service from 40 to 110 customers in one day1. Malnutrition, sleep deprivation, as well as emotional and physical abuse become part of the day-to-day routine.
In addition to the abuse, forced abortions and the contraction of STI’s, Hepatitis B and C, and AIDS are ever looming probabilities. Life for a victim of sex trafficking is hell on earth. This injustice is the reason The A21 Campaign exists.
THE STATISTICS: FOCUS EUROPE
- Human trafficking is the second largest global organized crime today, generating approximately 31.6 billion USD each year. Specifically, trafficking for sexual exploitation generates 27.8 billion USD per year2.
- There are 1.39 million victims of commercial sexual servitude worldwide3.
- Over 25 percent of sex trafficked victims are trafficked from Southern and Eastern Europe4.
- 90% of victims trafficked into the European Union member states will end up in the sex industry5.
- Tragically, only 1-2 percent of victims are rescued, and only 1 in 100,000 Europeans involved in trafficking are convicted6.
GREECE - A PRIMARY DESTINATION
Greece is known as ‘the center of trafficking in Europe.7 A primary destination and transit country for human trafficking, Greece is the primary gateway for trafficked victims to enter the European Union, host to 90% of all EU illegal immigration8. Trafficked victims are moved frequently, both internally and across borders, to evade detection. Human trafficking is a hidden crime here, with most citizens unaware of the gross human rights abuses occurring in their own city. Approximately 20,000 women, including 1 000 girls between the ages of 13-15, remain in the Greek sex industry9. According to The Trafficking in Persons Report, these victims are primarily from Eastern Europe, the Balkans and Nigeria.
For more info and to find out how you can help, visit the A21 Campaign’s website.
gracenmichelle asked: lol RE: "must name sequences" - this was one of those projects where there's a drastic technical error in the first sequence and you end up starting a new project file and doing a million test sequences until you get one right and then at that point you're like FUCK NAMING SHIT because every time you name one "test" or "try" or "new one" you eventually get to "this better fucking work" and "omg I'm gonna slit my throat" as sequence names. I hope I'm not the only one that experiences this :)
hahaha yes, I have had the same problem(s) and I am sure ANY editor has! I just got a nervous tic because I have been spending the whole week organizing 20+ 3-4 year old jobs across 8 different TB drives. Yay downtime. Anything called “Untitled”, “Sequence 1726481”, “Final Rev Rev v3 ALT”, or with any other program default name is enough to send me into tears. Just don’t let my present become your future! I also cried for you when I saw the missing footage problem, thats the whole reason I am organizing these jobs. Capture/export to desktop? Save footage on one drive and project file on another? Whyeeeeeeee?!?!?!
michelleakin asked: That was an excellently articulated response. Thank you! I don't believe it's one sided. My intention is always to challenge the way people think and I can only do so with a strong voice and strong opinion. At least, that's how I roll, usually. There are a million modifications I could make to any statement I put out there, but I choose the route of being more stern on one issue in order to stir up thought and discussion. I appreciate your reblog :)
No problem, thanks for drumming up some interesting conversation!
And I assumed it wasn’t really how either of you felt - it’s just much easier to simplify viewpoints in order to make a point yourself sometimes. I only lumped you into the “one sided” view that I did because I know from personal experience how hard it can be to see past your own blinders (better known as “intentions”) when you are creating media, written or visual.
I am actually an editor myself, and totally not at work…I promise…OK, I lied. Anyway, I know it can hard for me to get past what the client or audience is “supposed” to think or feel in reaction to my work. What I want, or what the project intends, isn’t always what happens when you share your creation with the world. Sometimes, maybe more often than not, what you put out into the world has a completely different impact than what you anticipated or intended. I’m guessing this has happened to you at some point. A funny scene turned out sad, a serious portion gives everyone the giggles. This can be awesome when you get something more than what you intended…but it can also be terribly frustrating if the actual result works against your needs. Funny is great, but maybe not in a spousal abuse PSA, right?
So essentially I assumed you may think the same way as me from time to time, rather than call upon my non-existant mind reading abilities ;)
I know what it feels like to be called a “dirty spic” does that qualify me? :)
When you’re hurt by hearing a word, it isn’t so much the actual word as it is the hateful intention behind the word. We could replace the word faggot with the word cookie and as long as everyone knew that cookie was the new word for it, people would then be offended by me saying cookie.
The word alone is not the problem, the intention to harm is.
Actually, you are both right (M.A. in Communication here, not saying I’m perfect, just adding to the discourse). The problem isn’t the word (or any word), it is your view of communication.
You (message sender) apparently see communication as transmission focused. Your meaning is the “true” meaning, and any error is on the part of the receiver. This is very much related to mass communication (more TV/magazines/radio than blogging) because there is no back and forth to reach an agreed meaning.
Both smthngironic and nikaras apparently feel that the “true” meaning lies in the interpretation of content - the message received trumps the meaning intended. How I feel because of what you said/did is the most important factor. This lies a little closer to the PC/Critical view of communication that sees meaning as independent from (or at least not entirely dependent on) the message sender’s intent.
Me, I think the “true” meaning lies somewhere in the middle. Communication is NEVER one sided. It takes at least two, and the more people you add the screwier it can get.
For example, if I see a person in need of assistance, walk up to them and say “may I help you (derogatory term)?” there are at least two possible ways for each of us to understand this interaction. I could be unaware that I am using a hurtful name, and my intentions are good. Or perhaps I am trying to make them feel bad without being overtly agressive. They can choose to interpret my actions in either of these ways as well. But what happens next will be because of a combination of my meaning and their understanding of it.
1. They think I’m an asshole but I’m trying to help? They flip me off and I’m confused or hurt (looks like what happened here?). Pretty much just a big misunderstanding!
2. I’m an asshole and they think I’m an asshole? Same interaction, but I get the satisfaction of knowing I accomplished my goal of hurting them.
3. They think I’m nice but I’m an asshole? They accept my help, and I have to choose between helping someone I dislike, or being more overt in my intention to hurt their feelings.
4. They think I’m trying to help and I am? They accept my help and everybody feels all warm and fuzzy.
Obviously things can get pretty complicated pretty fast, but hopefully you all can also see (if you didn’t already), that there is more to communication than intention OR interpretation.